Looking For: Masc. 4 Masc. Only

If you been in the gay dating world for any length of time you have seen several lists, some short and others longer, of what can be considered “likes”, “attractions”, or “standards” that someone is looking for. A type perhaps. You may see things like: No fems! Be drama free! Be normal! No obese guys […]

Stepping Back From The Gay Community

Intracommunity Stress and Disengagement First, I want to clearly state the problem and that it isn’t just me stating this. I’m backing this up with research. Then I will share a little a bit of my own story and where I am at with it. “Conceptual Framework Minority Stress Theory” traditionally emphasizes external stressors (homophobia, […]

What Gays Can Learn From Straight Frat Boys

When Pride Becomes Performance and Connection Gets Lost in the Noise America Divided—Even Within Ourselves It’s not just left vs. right, red vs. blue, MAGA vs. liberal. Our cultural divide runs deeper than politics. It’s in how we relate to one another. How we define identity. Let’s face it. Right now, the divisions are manufactured […]

The Tale of 3 Gay Models–All is Not As It Seems

When I followed the models that I’m about to write about, I never set out to write about them. It was deeply personal. First, it was based solely on attraction. Second, since they were on platforms that allowed for one on one communication, this gave me deeper access to their thoughts and feelings–if there were […]

Out of The Mouth of Gay Babes in the Wilderness

Can you relate? Where you’ve been in the gay world so to speak and actually for a while though it had its horror moments you enjoyed yourself ..you made friends…you did the things… But the gay drama, substance abuse around you, the wall you hit in relationships, and certain betrayals just finally had you realize […]

Only the Lonely

I have a confession to make. I hated Covid for many reasons and I wouldn’t wish it to be here, but one reason it provided a blessing for me is that it took a constantly overcharged extroverted world and calmed it down into a more evened-out introverted balance for those of us who needed it. […]