Stuck In A Play I Didn’t Write

I’m not supposed to be here I wanted to be over there! You know, living that life Doing those things! Dreaming big and Accomplishing big things but I’m stuck in a play I didn’t write Where the main character is a hero for others Except for himself A victim on too many nights And the […]

The Chase for Masculinity

I wonder as a gay man why it seems to me that so many put visible aspects of masculinity on such a high pedestal as though somehow true masculinity is a physical by-product to be worshipped or to become it by mere physical expression? Is a man with a missing leg less masculine? Or a […]

On The Darker Side Of The Moon

On the darker side of the moon, Where a lot of bad things happen to you, Where people say what can’t be is, And where God gives you more than you can handle, And the nightmare repeats, and you travel around the lunar mountain yet again, From lessons, you’ve yet to learn. Where you have […]

The Barbie, The Brobie, and The Bearbie–Who Won?

This weekend I had a dilemma because there were multi-events going on around the new Barbie movie coming out. Gaydom is all aflame about using this new Barbie movie starting the studly Ryan Gosling as Ken as a platform. One event was bear themed but in a Barbie way (Barbie with chest hair? Ew no! […]

What Does “Living Your Best Gay Life” Mean to You?

“LIVING MY BEST GAY LIFE!!” I see this posted on social media here and there, and I have mixed feelings about the statement. First, it is often, in my experience, posted by people showing themselves partying it up or slutting it up somewhere. To each their own, I’m not condemning that but is that “the […]

on the wrong side of the war

A long time ago, I was a FUNDAMENTALIST Christian. I saw myself as a soldier in a spiritual battle. Set apart for a special purpose, attacked by the Devil and attacking the Devil’s plans. Different from your average Joe who didn’t know the “real” deal going on behind the scenes. Average Joe’s, “Muggles” in Harry […]

The Real ‘Pride’ that endangers our children

I want to experience your vulnerability but I don’t want to be vulnerable. Vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me. I’m drawn by your vulnerability but repelled by mine. —Brene’ Brown There is real definite pushback on the LGBTQ community right now that we are a dangerous indoctrinating message to children–part of the […]

What’s Tina Tuner Got To Do With It?

Let me be your private dancer for a moment as I talk about the one and only Tina Turner. But I don’t want to lose you because you’re simply the best, better than all the rest. We might feel like two people rolling on the river stopping only to see the spirit of the bear, […]

How the World Got Trumped & What You Can Do About It

In one the most epic original fantasies of all time, The Hobbit and the Lord of the Rings written by J.R. Tolkien we meet the likes of elves, trolls, wizards, and dragons but not just to entertain us. It is a story to teach and inspire us. It is a story that represents life. The […]

Coming Out Later in Life

Coming out later in life has its advantages. You are more objective and less immature as you step into the gay culture. You can read people and know who to trust and who not to…. oh heck, who am I kidding. There really aren’t any benefits coming out later in life LOL. When you come […]