What Gays Can Learn From Straight Frat Boys

When Pride Becomes Performance and Connection Gets Lost in the Noise America Divided—Even Within Ourselves It’s not just left vs. right, red vs. blue, MAGA vs. liberal. Our cultural divide runs deeper than politics. It’s in how we relate to one another. How we define identity. Let’s face it. Right now, the divisions are manufactured […]

The Hurt We Carry

(Yes, I Am Back!) Hi, if you are paying attention, I chose not to leave. Substack is sort of blahhh. So I will do both. Let me catch you up on what you missed. At our core, we have a need to be loved, accepted, and seen for who we are. Many of us don’t […]

Close Encounters of the SSRI Kind

In order to make this readable no matter which side you stand on about prescription drugs, SSRI’s, John F Kennedy Jr. and his appointment, I’m just going to tell you my story and weave some facts rather than conjecture. It took a horse-drawn carriage to get me into therapy. I was terrified to go, but […]

My Debates With Pastor Trucker LongHair

There is a saying we all know very well: ‘that’s the last straw’. For those of us on the more progressive side of things, and who like the idea of things of oh, I don’t know…. a fuctioning republic over a dictatorship, this Trump presidency is descending us into new levels of hell. While our […]

When You Wish Upon A Star & A Dream Doesn’t Come True

It happens in small ways or in big ways. It might be a job promotion, a wish for a partner, or a dream home. It could have been a different presidential candidate.. eh hem. You could find that most of the ideal dreams or visions you had for yourself are now running on plans b, […]

The Tale of 3 Gay Models–All is Not As It Seems

When I followed the models that I’m about to write about, I never set out to write about them. It was deeply personal. First, it was based solely on attraction. Second, since they were on platforms that allowed for one on one communication, this gave me deeper access to their thoughts and feelings–if there were […]

The Loss of Linda Lavin

There have been many notable celebrity losses this year: Quincy Jones, Kris Kristofferson, Richard Simmons, Liam Payne, Dame Maggie Smith, Bob Newhart, Don Sutherland and so many more. Recently Jimmy Carter passed away but he was 100 and we knew that was coming–even so, an argument could be made that he was one of the […]

The 50 Shades of 2024 in the U.S.

I want to preface my encapsulation of 2024 by saying , for myself, I have had a good year. I feel guilty like I did when Covid was happening for feeling I had been thriving during it as an introvert. On top of that, I began a hop, skip, and jump in my career that […]

What Codifying Toxicity Costs Us

I’ve been talking about an idea with several people lately but this thought really began decades ago after a series of bad job break-ups. My father always raised me under the mantra that you do your work to the best of your ability, don’t worry what anyone else says, and your boss will notice and […]

Out of The Mouth of Gay Babes in the Wilderness

Can you relate? Where you’ve been in the gay world so to speak and actually for a while though it had its horror moments you enjoyed yourself ..you made friends…you did the things… But the gay drama, substance abuse around you, the wall you hit in relationships, and certain betrayals just finally had you realize […]